And then, there's a bearded fetus.

My partner has what you have (including the vomiting, oh my god, the vomiting) and I honestly have begun to think that there is a link between being a lesbian and having your spine degenerate, because of all the lesbian couples I know, including the one I'm in, one person has degenerative changes of the spine and one does not. What the fuck gives? Anyway, I support your amnesty and anything else you need to do for yourself.

(I work with spine patients and a lot of them are lesbians, which is why maybe I have a skewed perception? But still, socially, I also see a lot of this phenomenon.)