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beanside ([personal profile] beanside) wrote2024-08-30 09:14 am

Night is now falling So ends this day

It's Friday, and I stupidly took the day off, so it's going to be a quiet day of not much to do. The oxygen people will be here between 11 and 2 to pick up all that stuff.

That was what I did with my morning yesterday, I called the various medical supply companies and asked them to pick up their shit. Only Oxygen therapy is doing it. Apparenlty for all the durable medical supplies like the bed, the hoyer lift and the wheelchair, we've been renting it long enogh that we own it. So, we're going to have to figure out what we're going to do with it. My brother in law has a call into the VA to see if they'll take it. If not, I'm going to post it on Facebook.

We've got 2 wheelchairs, a walker, a hoyer lift, a sit/stand and a hospital bed, all of which we own free and clear. Not one of which do we know what to do with.

Ast he day went on, we started looking to the future, and what we'd like to do. We've started looking at apartments, Jess and I will start touring some right away. Since we're moving in with my sister, it needs to either be a flat entrance or have an elevator.

We're also thinking that in a little while, we're going to have a little party for family and friends to celebrate him and my mother's reunion and lives. I'm pushing to have it in a little hall and bring food trucks to the parking lot for dinner. Fun and also economical. Though catering isn't much more, honestly, so we'll see.

It's weird to think that if Jess and I want to, we can just lock up and go out for a few hours. I could just...go to lunch. Right now, and there's nothing to stop us.

I don't feel like things have completely sunk in. Deep down, it still feels like it's just another grippy sock vacation, even though he's gone. I don't know if one day it's going to drop on my head, or if it's going to just settle in quietly a little at a time.

As soon as we're able, we're going to get a dumpster to start cleaning the house, and then a storage unit to start building up things we'll need for the new place. We've been living on paper plates and plastic forks, and we'd all like to stop living like that.

So, in short, lots to do, with a plan to move in late March. Then, they can just sell this motherfucker, and if there's anything left over, we'll take the money and invest it.

For now, though, the oxygen people should be here soon, so I'm going to get myself together. Everyone have an excellent Friday!
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[personal profile] weyrlady 2024-08-30 03:02 pm (UTC)(link)
The work of winding up someone's life is so strangely mundane, it doesn't feel right, does it? It will feel like a lot for a while, but one day you'll notice that it's just over and things have settled in to a new state of normal.

If you have a branch of the Lions Club near you, they often have a program for taking and redistributing durable medical equipment to those who need it.
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[personal profile] dine 2024-08-30 10:17 pm (UTC)(link)
I hope your day hasn't been too hard - there are so many details to handle, which makes a loss even harder. grief is a very weird thing, not only individual, but it can shift from quietly settled to more in the front of your brain/emotions. the former is easier, and I hope that's the way it works for you, at least most of the time.

good luck finding homes for the equipment - I'm sure you can find takers for it, and possibly even make a bit (or get a tax write-off).

I'm thinking of you guys!